Put your thoughts to sleep,
do not let them cast a shadow
over the moon of your heart.
Let go of thinking — Rumi
Overthinking involves dwelling on how bad you feel and thinking about all the things you have no control over. It won’t help you develop new insight. The difference between problem-solving, self-reflection, and overthinking isn’t about the amount of time you spend in deep thought.
It is about thinking way too much. Thinking unnecessarily for a very long time also comes under it. Overthinking has never helped anyone. But you still end up doing it. It is a repeated process of thinking about any person, incident or relationship that brought a bitter change in your life. Psychologists believe that overthinking is the cause of anxiety, stress, demotivation and depression.
Ruminating can devastate your life. Because then you think more and do nothing. You come into a zone where you feel thinking about keeping a book to bookshelf will mean the work is done. You get so much engrossed in your thoughts that you don’t know what is happening around you. You forget as to why did you come to the room. You don’t know where are you sitting. You stand blank when any teacher asks you any question. You end up wondering what the hell is going in your life?
Here are 10 signs that you’re an overthinker:
- You relive embarrassing moments in your head repeatedly.
- You have trouble sleeping because it feels like your brain won’t shut off.
- You ask yourself a lot of “what if…” questions.
- You spend a lot of time thinking about the hidden meaning in things people say or events that happen.
- You repeat conversations you had with people in my mind and think about all the things you wished you had or hadn’t said.
- You constantly remind yourself of your mistakes.
- When someone says or acts in a way you don’t like, you keep replaying it in your mind.
- Sometimes you are not aware of what’s going on around you because you are dwelling on things that happened in the past or worrying about things that might happen in the future.
- You spend a lot of time worrying about things you have no control over.
- You can’t get your mind off your worries.
But you realize it too much late. And mending things now will take you longer. So it’s better to ruminate less and even if you find yourself doing it. Mend your ways as soon as possible. So that you don’t reach a point of long-term sadness.
Overthinking comes in two forms; ruminating about the past and worrying about the future.
Ruminating about past. It is like getting stuck on things that you cannot change now. You dwell in the past and try to change the things the way you wanted them to be. This overpowers you and you end up having bad mood with anxiousness.
Thinking about future is something like negative dreaming. You do fortune telling or try to predict things. This makes you anxious. You are never in the present.
Few tips to overcome overthinking:
- Schedule your worry-time
- Practice mindfulness(you can find any 5 colors, things around your you can smell 3 things, feel 4 things and listen or take note of 3 things you hear the voice of)
- Get busy
- Vent out your feelings
- Practice physical exercises