We all have irrational thoughts, about which we aren’t even aware of. But irrational thoughts keep us from success we deserve and the contentment we want. Because thoughts make a problem much more bigger than it is actually. Once you’ve identified an irrational thought, the next step is to break it down and replace it with a positive rational belief. In this post I will discuss about seven common irrational thoughts and hopefully if you suffer from irrational thinking it will help you to change.
1.If somebody criticizes me there must be something wrong with me
There are many reasons why people criticize but it does not mean you are bad as a human being. It just means that they have a different opinion about you. It is good to get criticism sometimes as that may help you grow as an individual.
2. I must always seek approval in order to feel good about me
There is no way you can please everybody all the time so, no point in even trying. After all you are not a Nutella jar and you cant make everyone happy. It is good to take opinions from people but don’t go out of the way to please other people. Seek approval from yourself and not from others. Take approval from yourself as what you think is the best approval.
3. I won’t try anything new until I know I will be good at it
Many people suffer from these types of thoughts. Trying new things in life is a way for you to grow and learn more about yourself. Trying and exploring is what life is all about. To grow and develop, it is always a good idea to try new things even if you are bad at it initially. But when you will be good at it, you would feel how worthy it was. You don’t have to be good at everything in your life but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy new experiences even if you are not good at them.
4. It’s not my fault my life did not go the way I wanted
I have news for you; it is your fault. This doesn’t make you bad and it doesn’t at all mean you are a failure. You have control on your thoughts and thus your actions. Your thoughts and actions will determine your life. If you constantly blame others for the way your life is going on, you have given all your power away to other people. Take the control back and be responsible for your thoughts and actions.
5. I am inferior to everyone else
That’s just the way you feel, which doesn’t make it true. Recognize, what you feel is not always true. Check it out what did you think. Not all thoughts and feelings are true. You have qualities that nobody else can touch and other people have qualities that you can’t touch. Recognizing that your strengths will build your self-confidence but don’t put yourself down when recognizing that somebody else is better than you at something.
6. I was rejected which shows there is something wrong with me
I think it is okay to be rejected. Because after so many rejections you will be accepted someday. And the acceptance you will get after so many rejections, it will be so much worthy and you will feel lucky to find it after so much patience.
Like for instance, a person who was rejected in a relationship, he would think it always happens to him and he must somehow be unworthy of love.
So, people reject others due to differing standards, just like you do, but it doesn’t mean you are in any way unworthy it just means your choices don’t match someone else’s choice .
7. If I feel happy about life something will go wrong
Another common irrational thought. You deserve the happiness; your past is your past, if there are still issues lurking from your past that is obstructing you to feel happy about today, speak to someone about it.
Do not mix your present and future thoughts with bad memories or else you will end up infecting your present and future thoughts. Further infecting your life which will always stay the same.