We see a huge number of divorces and breakups every other day. We have come across couples who broke up even after being committed before marriage. But we can never come to a conclusion of whether love marriages last or arranged marriages. Psychologists have come up with the idea of wedding or premarital therapies. Wedding therapy may sound unromantic to many couples. But it is a way to future proof your relationship and break the illusion of the fairy tale ending. The good news is that “Some couples continue their therapy while they settle into marriage. It also helps them to work on their communication styles, which further strengthens their relationship.” Cate Campbell, a relationship therapist and a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, says such therapy is on the rise. “In the past five years, this type of counselling has become increasingly popular,” she adds. “I think people are becoming increasingly realistic about relationships.”
However, loved-up couples seem on their wedding day, the Office for National Statistics shows that the average marriage in the UK lasts 12 years. These over expectations of “happy ever afterlife after the wedding” is the reason why people are taking a proactive approach to secure their lifelong relationship. Unlike traditional couples’ therapy, which is often attended after a serious relationship breakdown, premarital therapy aims to prevent problems before they arise. Some couples in the east are even given therapy sessions as a ‘wedding gift’. Charlotte Fox Webber, head of psychotherapy of the school of life says “Sometimes people think they’re so in love that they don’t need therapy. But counselling can make a good life even better. It’s like taking out breakdown cover before your car breaks down.”
In some countries especially the UK, psychologists have seen a big rise in the number of young couples attending therapy. Surprisingly, they also saw older couples who have been divorced, recognized they made mistakes and want to make things work this time.
To sum up “In reality, soulmates and perfect relationships do not exist. But premarital therapy can help two individuals build strong foundations for the future.”